How has it been in your 20s?

20 something is definitely the most energetic and enthusiastic phase of your life, which sometimes it stresses you out by how to live to the utmost with it. Your busi-ness is to be busy with your wildest dreams and ambitions. There are also some weird-ies that I bet someday when I look back; there will be nostalgia crammed with laugh-filled moments.

  1. In your 20 something, you feel stuck in the moment, you want to escape but hilariously you are not certain where you want to break through yet. Especially, when you are in the deadly dull and cold weather, you just let your head freely fly to another exquisitely sunshine land. Then humorously you just could not figure out where you have just put your ID card.
  1. In your 20 something, even you are abroad and you want to explore even more countries and then you are uncertain of where you would like to call it home. It seems like nothing could satisfy you enough. Gladly you know for sure “home is where the heart is”.
  1. In your 20 something, it is awesome to believe you can do anything with your youthfulness and vigorousness; however, it is so frustrated that you just astonishingly forgot to save your favorite writing. Fortunately, you are optimistic enough to commence another one which you had better believe it will be a better one lol.
  1. In your 20 something, sometimes your mind is just wandering somewhere else so that you are totally unaware of reality. It happens to me so many times, hilariously and bitterly that I lost something and I even did not recognize it until it was too late.
  1. In your 20 something, you know deep down you’re not a teenager anymore. Sometimes you feel childish and immature to have emotional fluctuation, moody time. Simply there are many rules to be an adult; you have to act and talk like this, like that. You just want to be your own wonderful nutshell for a while.
  1. In your 20 something, you want to achieve and gain more with your curiosity and ambition. You are afraid that next year, another year, you are running out of your life-time to do the most non-regrettably crazy things. Then you catch yourself in either burnout or two many directions to be on the right track.
  1. In your 20 something, you want to develop a healthy habit and healthy life with even being a vegan (perhaps just a part-time or freelance vegetarian lol), eliminate chunk. Yet sometimes it is just too much like a control freak. Then a bag of m&m or ice-cream just simply makes my day.
  1. In your 20 something, you want to be an early bird in the morning as you have seen scientifically successfully admirable gurus are all early riser. But it seems like one of the most ambitious New Year’s revolution ever.  Especially there is no consistent mommy to insistently nag you up when you are living by yourself.
  1. In your 20 something, I know there are always many little friends and foes in our head keep communicating continuously (especially girls lol). Presumably it is so crucial to explain to everyone why you just don’t want to talk right now or not in the mood, but you assume no one would want to hear or they don’t have time or else just never mind.
  1. Particularly, there are some plans you have persisted to make them count, yet they unexpectedly turn out to other worthy journeys. Because classically life is worthwhile and fashionably we call it “C’est la vie”;).

I am also in my 20 something, so I am not here to tell you what should be done; because I am also figuring it out myself daily basis ;).  Although there are hot and cold moments in my head from time to time, I am wholly happy and enjoy every single piece of imperfection during the perfect 20 something.


Have you ever heard of Agenda in the Netherlands?
It is so immensely popular that almost everyone uses it on daily basis and always innately has it with them.  Plus there is a little hysterical peace of funny story for an expat, when he wanted to ask a Dutch girl out, he thought she might have been playing hard to get. Since when he asked her if she had time for a drink on Tuesday, then she was just as honest as she could with her agenda and replied: “oh, nice! But Tuesday I have an appointment”. He insisted:” how about Wednesday”.  She was checking on her powerfully-decisive- little-notebook again 😉  : “ oh no my agenda is full, Wednesday I can’t either, neither Thursday nor Friday.” Finally, he just pitifully gave up:” okay you know what never mind”


Agenda is not an uncommon word to everyone around the world, but the most common and powerful this word is I have only seen in the Netherlands, wherein Dutch make use it to the utmost. It was exceptionally intriguing to me how and why people are still sort of a bit unbelievably old fashioned like this. Despite the fact I thought using agenda especially in a written way, which would be bit of verbiage; my curiosity was so wildly huge that I had to give it a try. Another reason I tried perhaps also because they do sell many in every bookstore in the Netherlands with all styles which would suit variety tastes of agenda-ers: colourfully eye-catching, sophisticated, plain and simple (and I am not a book-aholic though, but I love to be at the bookstores like every guy would love to be at Mediamarkt – kind of a famous electronic market here or a child at the ice-cream store). That’s why I could not resist of picking up one of a year for myself, hilariously if it was not yearly agenda, I would have had an enormous collection of agendas already.

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Nevertheless, it might be beyond your imagination because the advantages of using agenda are spectacular. It is scientifically proven that whenever you write down, the motivation for you to make it happen is much more likely to increase dramatically (truly from Mr. R. Cialdini- the author of “Influence”). Also it helps you organise more effectively, as well as prioritise what’s important, which is usually confused with what’s urgent ( initiated by Mr. Stephen Covey from ” the 7 habits of highly effective people”). I don’t want to exaggerate but the Dutch really deserve an big applause on using agenda regarding these advanced benefits.

Honestly, first time I was using this, I was so eager to jot down everything in details what I really wanted to achieve in a day. Watch out!! Don’t be too ambitious otherwise you would be overwhelming and stressing yourself out. Because there were too many tasks to get done. What a shame! I dropped out nearly a half of them; sometimes it got me so frustrated. However, the point is that  you are learning day by day by making and recognising mistakes. So, don’t worry! You’ll overcome it soon! I promise 😉 or just I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!

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And right now, agenda becomes an incredibly necessary item on my wish list for new year, which is definitely as important as new clothes for a girl ;-p. What about the old agenda of previous years? Should they be in the trash? Lol …Oh No way! They are certainly kept in a little memory box as priceless treasure of my own. Sometimes perhaps nostalgic moments, I could turn those valuable pages on the agendas as well as track myself, where I have been developing or losing track of my activities to learn and improve myself from it. At times, it is just really funny how it’s turned out differently from what I wrote down but it’s also shown off the need for flexibility. Thereof, although it keeps you committed to what you promised yourself greatly so that you had it written down, sometimes a bit adjustment would be an anti-rigidity, which can lead to surprised joy ;0.

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