Top 5 uplifting points for the decade in review

Wandering on my memory lane on a rainy day in Taichung, I’ve got myself an acceptable excuse to just stay inside and write before the new decade 2020s commences ( and perhaps overthinking everything without guilts :D)

Visiting Taiwan at this time of the year has generated some unexpected thoughts of what an exhilarating roller coaster 2019 and the decade 2010s has been on any possible aspects.

Geographically from Belgium, the Netherlands to Thailand, Vietnam, Singapore, Malaysia, Cambodia and now Taiwan with the emotionally approaching quarter-life crisis state of mind to the absolute self-content one.

Here are the top 5 uplifting points of my decade in review:

1. There is no dream job.

You have to work and figure it out what realistically aligns most with your passion, personal value and integrity. It was not a totally smooth path to thrive on my journey. There are obviously bumps on my career path, some might have been twisting points with priceless learning points.

Never give up on what truly matters and makes me feel rewardingly happy at the end of the day. Plus seeking for endless career advice and immersed myself in the field, gladly I’ve found the sector and a career to thrive for.

Bonus, it well-fits with my travelling wish list. By being based in HCMC working closely in a business side with the BOD of an international school, it seems to be a promising start of the new decade.

2. Most people overestimate what can be achieved in a year and underestimate what can be achieved in a decade or a few years.

As it seems like an exhausting flare to have a wandering memory lane backing to 10 years ago and watching your own progressing life movie in a slow motion.

10 years ago, I would never even imagine in my wildest dream travelling to 30 countries and countless cities. Which has been totally possible by being based in a central country in a specific region, where I can travel to other neighbouring countries while working and studying without hurting my budget and having a decent earning.

By that way, I can ensure of the effectiveness and efficiency with regards to the time and money as well as making progress on my personal and professional growth.

In contrast, in this highly fast moving decade thanks to rapid innovative development, it’s getting somewhat unrealistic to plan in details in 10 years with tons of unforeseen variables. Frankly, I’d say 3-5 years can be laid out meticulously and a decade can be generally planned out with realistic flexibility.

3. Insecurity can be a fatally dead-end road. So, live without no regrets and travel with no excuse.

One of my favourite questions is: ” Would you prefer your present-self to your past-self?”. The definitely yes is always a good start to boost confidence and eliminate the insecurity.

To be totally honest, I don’t even know where to start, the insecurity somehow just appeared in daily thought since I was a teenager. And as I’ve observed from myself and others, it can be outwardly come out in many forms from the various extend of shyness to the extreme arrogance just to instinctively protect their inner-self from the fear of the unknowns. Despite of the possible cliche, we always can always choose to see “live” as reversely “evil” or “live” itself. As experiencing myself, the most uplifting experience ever is to remove the insecurity and replace it with peace of mind.

4 . Prejudice – We are fundamentally the same but express ourselves so differently.

By seeing the country with real eyes, travelling and living in the closest local experience as possible, I have to say we all have at least one prejudice about a specific country thanks to the media and common sense. For example, Dutch are thrift and rude, Scandinavians are cold-hearted, Spanish are big-talkers, Singaporean are materialistic, Malaysian are weird, Taiwanese are like the Japanese. Or all European or Asian are respectively the same. Yet, Please don’t hold those beliefs strongly, go and see for yourself. The surprising and genuine kindness of the each country uniquely touches your heart deeply.

5. Life-long learning is what keeps you alive.
Truly I don’t have or hope to have everything figure out yet in this decade or the incoming decades. But I know trying to adapt and evolve everyday which lifts me closer to the better in both personal and professional front. And I love it that way! To keep the open-mind and refreshing perspective for ongoing learning points. To live not to just exist.

FROM a quarter-life crisis TO the ongoing-life ride…

A new definition on being homesick

It’s all started when I first moved from the Netherlands to Denmark, I realised I was being homesick from the familiarity of the Netherlands not the birthplace country Vietnam where I was born. I was a bit confused because it didn’t make any sense at all based on the “homesick” definition I had known. And the homesick would not stop even then 6 months later, I moved to the fascinating Barcelona. I had been still longing for that familiarity which I thought the place itself.

“We’re all just walking and walking and walking, and trying to find our way”

Then when I was back in the Netherlands, life still went on and I was happy as if I came back to my own nest. However, the bliss did not last too long. Especially in your early 20s, it was incredibly challenging to settle and watch life goes on… and Yet unfortunately, I still did not cure the “so-called homesick” I supposed I had been feeling… I have to admit, sometimes when I close my eyes, the fresh sense of the Danish nyharv, Scandinavian fjort or the Dutch canals – gracht or the exotic central Catalans placa – main square or the Parisian boulevard still felt like cinnamon at Christmas.

A new perspective of being abroad

As a big fan of believing in “connecting the dots”, I thought the cure of being homesick is trying new experience in different places. The best solution I could think of at that time back when I was on the road from Denmark to Sweden, was being abroad (p.s: That’s how this site got the name :D).

So far, I’m blessed to have been to 30 countries and experienced the high, the ecstasy of seeing new things which I have not seen before . Yet unfortunately, I still did not have the cure for having felt unease to stay in one place for long…

Only if life can be figured out that easy at 25 years “young” or the so-called ” a quarter life crisis” ( If trusted that you’ll make it to a hundred realistically). And as you can see, I have not been blogging for a long while. Intuitively, I know deep inside that I can write blog when I am at ease, at peace with myself and genuinely content. Also, I still want to keep this blog as positively truthful as possible.

“It is impossible for you to go on as you were before, so you must go on as you never have”

At my wit’s end, my original plan in Vietnam, the birthplace that I felt mixed both familiar and foreign since the time I left as a teenager due to the ongoing experience, was deemed for 6 months before another new journey. Yet, isn’t life itself a journey from one experience to another? And it just goes on and on, the homesickness or being abroad is just a concept depending on how your perspective aligns or how you look at it. If in my early 20s, being abroad is going to different places, countries, in my mid-20 now, I’m glad to expand that concept : Being abroad is to experience new positive thing each day even in your familiar surrounding. And instead of being homesick for a familiar place, let’s build the thing that lasts, no matter wherever you are. So that at the end of day, you will have left your best mark on earth.

“The only way you’ll find out if you have it in you is to get to work and see if you do”

Life is full of surprises along with opportunities when you are not actually looking. And gladly, I’ve got the answers. It’s definitely not rocket science. Indeed I would call it timing or old but gold technique. I have experienced perhaps enough of the widespread in verticals or in width yet not the depth or horizontal growth. Both personally and professionally. It’s time for the next ongoing-life ride.

“Let whatever mysterious starlight that guided you this far, guide you onward into whatever crazy beauty awaits.”

Where you have been and what you have experienced contribute to who you are, what you believe, what you are capable of as a unique individual.

PS: Stay on the bright side, always!